Domo,

I am seriously dating a guy and he wants us to move in together at the end of our leases in September. I love him but don’t really want to live with him if we are not engaged or married. I feel bad telling him…  Another thing is that I know my mom and dad (who support me partially) will not be havin’ it. He doesn’t have the money to support both of us. I am not sure what to do. I don’t want to force him to propose but… I am not sure what to do… help a sista out!

No…No…No… Don’t move in with a guy who won’t marry you. Period. Secondly, if you value marriage as a prerequisite for living with someone, he should know! There is no reason for you to be reluctant to tell him. Thats not a proposal, that’s a proclamation. If you are worried about losing “partial parental funding,” then this man must be broke! If you are in love, then you will have to deal with being broke. Parents don’t want you to marry a man and still be on the payroll. Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your man about your future.

Once you get married, you are no longer your parent’s responsibility. Tell him that I said, “Stack your chips. sow into an engagement ring and somewhere to house a family!” Love is not enough! If you get broke while you are married, that’s a different story… but now is the time for both of you to be PLANNING for a future together… not leasing an apartment.

My humble opinion. -Domo